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If you don’t learn from your mistakes

You are destined to repeat them. True story.

Ever notice how most people have several issues that just keep popping up over and over and over again? Like- people who can’t seem to keep a job. There is a pattern in their employment history. They think it’s “just the job” so they find a new one, only to not be satisfied AGAIN. The cycle just repeats over and over and over again.

Financial issues. You can never seem to keep your head above water. You support a family of five off the same amount that your neighbor supports his family of five. His bills are paid on time, he drives a nice car, lives in a nice house and always seems to have money for extras….. yet you can barely keep your lights on, your car is constantly on the verge of breaking down, etc….

Relationship issues. Every guy you end up with seems to be emotionally unstable. He screams at you, throws shit, calls you names, cheats on you, etc…. in the end you settle for an asshole after concluding that all men must be dogs…..

I mean, really, I could go on. Patterns. We all have some sort of patterns in our lives. If you notice a negative pattern in your life, your best bet is to face it. Stop running from it. Stop assuming that if you just leave your current situation, everything will suddenly get better and you will finally be happy- because you won’t. These problems will haunt you for the rest of your life. They will never go away on their own. You have to deal with it NOW. Not tomorrow. NOW. The more you put it off, the more you waste your life away PREVENTING happiness. Stop saying, “Why does this keep happening to me?”. It keeps happening to you because YOU won’t deal with it. You would rather run and hide from it. But there is nowhere to run and nowhere to hide. Look at your current situation. Look at how you feel. You will feel JUST LIKE THIS 5, 10, 15 years from now. The next job. The next girl. It’s always going to be there. Unfortunately these self destructive behaviors rarely *just* affect you. They sometimes affect everyone around you.

I can handle getting an “F” on a math test…. but I don’t know how I would be able to handle getting an “F” on life. I would really hate to get old, look back on my life and think- WOW. I did it ALL WRONG. That has to be one of the worst feelings…. to finally see things so clearly and not be able to do a damn thing about them. Do it now. Don’t let yourself down, don’t sell yourself short. The things that make you the happiest are sometimes the things you have to work the hardest at. Stop taking the easy way out. Easy is not always better. I don’t get excited when I cook a box dinner…. I never say, “Kevin, wasn’t that Stouffers Lasagna AMAZING?!?!” Because there was NO effort involved. I threw that shit in the oven and called it a day. No, I get excited when I spend a LOT of time in the kitchen, chopping, mixing, seasoning, tending to something special….. a REALLY awesome home cooked meal…. that’s when I feel like I have accomplished something.

You can run away from your situation and find something easier (and boy do I REALLY mean easy here….. TOO fucking easy)……OR….. you can do the hard thing….. you can STAY. You can stop running, stay right where you are- and work it out. You can work it out. You can make it better. It doesn’t seem like it right now because your head is all fucked up. Your emotions are haywire. But once the light turns on in your head and you realize “Wait….i’ve done this before. I’ve felt like this before.” then you will see your situation MUCH clearer. Everything will make way more sense. Stop romanticizing something that isn’t all that spectacular. You’ve felt like that before. Many times. Stay right where you are and get that old feeling back with what you already have.

Run all you want……but your problems will still be waiting for you when you get there…..